JEEP LIFE AND THE GREAT OUTDOORS
"Not all those who wander are lost"
One thing about joining the OC Motorsports team is for sure, they love having fun! Every month we all get together and Jeep. We hit local trails, we hang and have fun together, we participate in fun charitable events and of course we get the next crazy jeep mod idea and expect the crew over there to bring it to life for us.
If you haven't visited the shop or been out on a trail with us yet, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?? Come on out and join the OC Motorsport family!
For a loooooong time now I've been tortured by the sun. Yup, day in and day out. Early morning...blinded! Late evening...blinded! All because my only option was to flip down my sun visor and shield my eyes from the sun with one small problem. Not only did my visor shield me from the glare of the sun, it also shielded me from ANYTHING IN FRONT OF ME!
Now, I'm not saying that TeraFlex made their brand new visor system just for me, I'm just saying it is an awfully big coincidence that just as my eyes were about to pop out of my head this wonderful long, skinny box shows up on my door step. Regardless, what a life saver!
The idea was to not only build out a tinted, plexiglass visor system that takes care of those exact moments the sun is a bit to much to squint through, but to do it with a very cool, industrial looking design and TeraFlex delivered tenfold.
The front visor kit mounts in the factory visor mounting spots so it goes in in less than 10 minutes. The side pieces are as easy to install, but mounting of the roll bar takes a little more work. The instructions are easy to follow, the price point is less than $160 bucks AND...yup, there are install videos!!
The older I get, the more I realize what’s important. I just turned 47 and although there is a part of me that cringes at the idea of that, I can’t say I don’t like where I am in life. It's kind of funny thinking back just a few years and remembering how much I thought I knew.
Staying physically healthy for example. We all get the importance of staying healthy by now right? The big difference for me is at 27 the workout was the focus. At 47, health has become about the importance of nutrition and the way our bodies use the fuel we eat. A good workout is definitely needed, but staying active and using your nutrition as a catalyst to maximize your effort is really the difference of mediocracy and success when it comes to health. Sure, the professionals have been trying to tell us that the entire time, but come on...who listens to the professionals at 27?? :-) (Personally I switched to a plant based diet. shoot me an email if your interested in learning more).
Spirituality also shifted from discipline based on a belief system to a real understanding of the importance of love and grace, for ourselves as much as for others. My twenties and thirties were spent running around the world getting nowhere fast trying to make the world a better place. Now I realize that although the "sheep dog" is a necessity in this world, we can impact our families and friends, who then impact our neighborhoods and communities which will in turn impact our country and world right here at home by loving, enjoying, being kind and selfless, showing forgiveness and trying to be the best person we can be every new day. We save the world when we teach people what love is, who God is and what a greater purpose feels like.
Mentally...well that is often what crushes us. When we are young we conquer the world leaving a path of ruin with the people we hurt in the process. As we age we make a shift and become our own worst enemies by allowing our insecurities, ego, and hardheadedness make us do things we know we shouldn't do leaving again a path of ruin with the people we hurt along the way. When we get to the age of doubt, "what ifs", and "never had the chance to do", we need understand those feelings are natural and healthy in a lot of ways. We need use our midlife thinking as a gut check on how we are living today, NOT how we did or didn't live in the past.
Ok, here's how it works. By staying healthy and by living spiritually we are prepared for the moments of doubt...and they will come. The problems don't begin with the thoughts alone, they begin with what we do with them. With a strong body and healthy spirit, we are much more prepared to identify and replace unhealthy thoughts with healthy ones. That process works in any order too. A strong mind and healthy spirit will help you stay discipline with keeping the body in check and and a strong mind and healthy body you can lay out the platform for your spirituality to get back on track when it's derailed.
The glue thats sticks all of that together though....LIVING IN THE PRESENT! If we dwell on the past we break. If we are always looking for what's next we miss it, but if we take the moment that we are in right now and understand it is literally the only moment we are guaranteed, we can make the most of it.
Life is an adventure. It's the most challenging, most difficult, most painful and most rewarding adventure we will ever have too. Never stop exploring, never stop learning and never stop living. A wise person once said...be the person your dog thinks you are.
The older I get the more I realize that good friends are hard to come by. Unfortunately it seems the conditions of a relationship swing more and more towards who you can be and what you can do for someone else. That’s pretty darn sad if you think about it.
Good news folks...we don’t have to be that way AND we certainly don’t have to surround ourselves with folks that are more concerned about only having a relationship with you on their terms.
First and foremost realize that we need to be good friends to have good friends. Don’t expect others to treat you better than you treat them. Be honest with yourself, are you a good friend? Are you the type of person the genuinely likes to give more than receive? The type of person that actually likes to help others?? If not, guess what...your probably the problem here. We attract like minded people and if we are selfish and shallow then we will attract selfish and shallow too. So, it’s gut check time.
Second...are we so insecure that we are willing to except people using or treating us badly just to feel like we have someone? Is lonliness worse than being in a bad relationship with someone? It most certainly is not. In fact, I would go so far as to say although we need people, we also need solitude. That only works if we work towards being the people that we want to be. It’s very difficult to except that insecurities drive us all from time to time and it’s even more difficult to work on identifying what those insecurities are, figure out where they stem from and finally put the work in to get past them. To be a great friend and to have great friends that is exactly what we need to do though.
Lastly...understand that every relationship you have has to have conditions and boundaries. That’s not a bad thing. Conditions will help keep perspective and boundaries will help keep us from either taking advantage of or be taken advantage of in our day to day lives. If we keep healthy conditions and boundaries we are never left feeling guilty or used. We will not impose or cause someone to feel bad either. A good understanding of healthy conditions and boundaries will save us from doing what can potentially ruin what took years to create within ourselves and others.
Look, we are all imperfect, we all make bone headed decisions that hurt the people in our lives. We all do say and do stupid things and we all hold resentment towards the people that wrong us periodically...well hopefully it’s only periodically. That said...although we have to realize the importance of needing to be good friends to have good friends, we need to battle our insecurities in life to have and maintain healthy relationships and we all need to keep healthy conditions and boundaries with every relationship if we want them to keep growing, the foundation to having and being in any great relationship is forgiveness.